Since I am now at home on Maternity leave, getting ready to have this baby, my schedule is all out of sorts....so posting here has been on the back burner. My midwife "checked" me on Monday and said that I was dilated to a 4, which is good news, but that still doesn't tell me how long I will stay at a 4 and doesn't give any indication on when I will have this baby. I can tell you that yes, I am ready....and being at home just waiting is a "catch 22". Thank God for my helpers, the Hubs, Mother and Mother in Law....its very difficult being 9 months pregnant with an 18 month old....and I don't expect it to be significantly easier with a newborn or anything...I just want my body back, I'm tired of feeling like an achy tugboat.
I was watching CBS Morning News and they did a story on a woman who is suing a Hospital in New York for forcing her to have a C-Section......see people...this is what I'm worried about. This is not acceptable. You can see the video of her interview here or read below...
"A woman is suing a New York hospital, claiming she was given a cesarean section against her will, reports CBS News contributor Dr. Holly Phillips.
Rinat Dray, 35, is the mother of three boys. Her first two were delivered by C-section and resulted in difficult recoveries. So in 2011, she was determined to have her next baby naturally, through a procedure called "vaginal birth after cesarean," or VBAC. It carries risk but can be performed successfully.
After several hours of labor, Dray's doctor pushed back. "He said, 'It doesn't matter if you're making good progress. I don't think it's going to be natural. I don't have all day for you,"' Dray said.
She said she felt he was being impatient as he continued to pressure her to have a C-section right away, warning her that her uterus would rupture and her baby was at risk.
"They pushed me into the operation. I was begging all the way, 'Don't do it, my baby is fine! Don't do it!"' Dray said. "His answer was just, 'Don't speak."'
Ultimately, Dray said she never gave consent when she was going into her C-section procedure.
Dray is suing the hospital and doctors, claiming negligence, malpractice and lack of informed consent.
Michael Bast, Dray's attorney, provided the doctor's handwritten note from her medical file, spelling out his concerns.
"The fetus is at risk for serious harm without the C-section, and for the mother, 'benefits ...outweigh risks,"' said a note in which a senior hospital staff signed off on the procedure.
Dray's attorney said the smoking gun for her case is also in the notes.
"I have decided to override her refusal to have a C-section," the doctor wrote.
"The mother has the right. It is morally wrong, it is medically wrong, it is always wrong to take a knife and stick it into a woman when she says no," Bast said.
Dray said she would like to grow her family of three boys, but she said giving birth scares her now.
"They forced me like that. It was very painful to be treated all this way," she said, adding that she felt like her rights were being taken away from her.
"I was treated less than an animal," Dray said.
Dray also said her bladder was damaged in the C-section delivery and she is seeking unspecified damages for that, as well."
What a horrible experience. Instead of providing a specific list of risks for this particular case, the Doctor uses a blanket excuse/ possible scare tactic of "The fetus is at risk for serious harm without the C-section, and for the mother, 'benefits ...outweigh risks,"'.....and I'm hungry and late for my lunch date. My instinct sides with the Mom on this one...why? Because I think, like the majority of us, she is a good Mom who would not want to do anything to harm her child....Because she has 2 other children she has cared for and raised...she didn't appear to be a reckless parent.
According to the Mother the Doctor was being impatient, and hopefully she can prove that in court...I think Hospitals and Doctors will take notice and be more patient any Momma friendly...that's all we want anyway...
