So my 2 cents.....
First of all, I couldn't be more proud of Whitney! How easy would it have been for her at 22 years old and 7 months pregnant to second guess herself and succumb to the delivery plan that the Doctor wanted? I think it showed great bravery and confidence to stand up for herself, and seek out the birth she wanted! I think Part 2 of her story would have had a very different feel and tone to it if she had compromised her wishes to please the Doctor, and possibly would have always carried regret in the back of her mind.
I think the old school OB's are going to realize that if they don't start meeting the wishes of the Momma's like us, their practice will suffer for it.
Several things we can take away from Whitney's experience:
- Education is key when considering the details of your birth. The more you know, the more options you have. If you dont know anything you are limited to the options the Doctor chooses to give you. Some standard procedures of Doctors and Hospitals are mainly for their convenience, certainly not your comfort.
-Its never too late to decide the birth that you want and make it happen. If you hear a "no", there are plenty of places now that will tell you "yes", they are out there! (Um, Hello....there's even a tab at the top of this blog....lol)
-Support from like-minded people is invaluable.(thanks for giving me props Whit :) ) Reach out to these people first to help keep confidence in your plan & yourself. If you reach out to the wrong people (even with the best intentions) unknowingly they can cause self doubt to seep in and chip away at your confidence.
- Support of your Husband: Whitney's husband stood strong for her when she needed him, he knew how much it meant to her. (ok, need a minute- getting choked up over here) Dustin- WOW, High Five! Know that Whitney will never forget the support and strength you showed that day and every time she thinks of it she will fall in love with you all over again.
I'm really good at math, so I have mapped out a mathematical equation to show the importance of the Husband's Support:
Invaluable multiplied by a Gazilliontrillion to the 200th power times INFINITY= Husband's Support
Get them involved in everything! Read statistics to them, send them emails with links to articles you want them to read (my blog ;)....tell them there will be a pop quiz, lol. Give them scientific evidence (like my mathematical equation) so they know how important their roll is. They may act all tough but they really do care and want to know. MAKE THEM TAKE A CLASS WITH YOU!!!! I will say it again MAKE THEM TAKE A CLASS WITH YOU!!!! (I recommend Birth Bootcamp) Also, the more you prepare them for what to expect the less shocked they will be and therefore more useful and supportive. ***if you shield them from what birth really is then its only your fault when they freak out on you!***lol.
In conclusion, I'd like to quote the ground breaking epic music stylings of that little redheaded pop star singer Lorde-
Living in ruins of a palace within my dreams
And you know, we're on each other's team
I’m kind of over getting told to throw my hands
up in the air. So there...
I’m kinda older than I was when I revelled
without a care. So there...
Just smile and nod and go with it....Its deep
Sorry, I havent finished my coffee yet this morning.....
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We're on each others team,
~Kellie
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So well said! What a way to start my day off, you've made me feel very special! :)
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