Pregnancy and birth are so primal to me, instincts lead the way. And while a lot of people blame the hormones for "crazy behavior"....I kinda tend to think they could be a protective measure, lol....do you really want to try to "out-crazy" the crazy pregnant woman? No, you probably want to leave her alone and move on...if you are smart.
What I don't get is the people who disregard the pregnant woman's feelings and state of mind as normal....same as when she is not pregnant. When she's feeling emotional, unrested, disheartened and weary...one would hope that the people closest to her would want to provide emotional support and lift her up, not bring her down- sadly this is not always the case.
I had heard this before and I was reading a book just last night that touched on it....factors that can stall or prevent a woman from going into labor....
- Stress
- not feeling safe
- emotional turmoil
- sudden change in her surroundings
Its quite funny because I also read that at the end of pregnancy a woman tends to exclude herself from the world, avoiding public outings, gatherings and such...which is exactly what I've been doing and all this time I just thought I was being unsociable and turns out I'm just following my instincts! Its kinda like that dog or cat that goes missing and then later you find her in a dark corner somewhere with her litter.
Ok, well I'm gonna go walk in circles around the house again....check ya later
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Tuesday, June 24, 2014
Always the Bridesmaid, Never the Bride
Well at least when it comes to having this baby...lol.
Everyone I know that was due in June has had their baby.....everyone but me.
My good friend who was due 5 days after me...yep she had her baby last night. I am genuinely excited for her and only a teensy jealous...we wagered a margarita on who would domino first.....looks like she's buying!
I'm only 2 days past my due date....which due dates are totally a scam to make you feel like you are inadequate and broken and a failure....for some reason I had it in my head I was going to have him before my due date (I'm sure 99% of all women think the same thing). What's funny is I even wrote a post awhile back talking about how I was gonna throw my due date out the window, and have peace and patience for this baby to come, I had a plan to be earth mother buddha goddess and not let having this baby affect me ...well that was then and this is now, and my know-it-all 2nd trimester blog posts can make like a baby and suck it...
I am so uncomfortable, I cant hardly sleep, I'm emotional, my stretch marks feel like they are burning in some places on my belly, I really could go on and on, but I'll spare you....
The only thing that has helped me is every morning I get up and tell myself "Today is the last day you will be pregnant..." and for some reason that helps me appreciate it a little more and gets me through the day....and then at night before I go to bed...still pregnant and NOT in labor...I pray for God to grant me His peace, and faith in His plan for me and baby.
So that's whats up. I will say I am very appreciative to not be receiving a lot of texts and messages with the "no baby yet?" theme... that has spared me some of my sanity.
Everyone I know that was due in June has had their baby.....everyone but me.
My good friend who was due 5 days after me...yep she had her baby last night. I am genuinely excited for her and only a teensy jealous...we wagered a margarita on who would domino first.....looks like she's buying!
I'm only 2 days past my due date....which due dates are totally a scam to make you feel like you are inadequate and broken and a failure....for some reason I had it in my head I was going to have him before my due date (I'm sure 99% of all women think the same thing). What's funny is I even wrote a post awhile back talking about how I was gonna throw my due date out the window, and have peace and patience for this baby to come, I had a plan to be earth mother buddha goddess and not let having this baby affect me ...well that was then and this is now, and my know-it-all 2nd trimester blog posts can make like a baby and suck it...
I am so uncomfortable, I cant hardly sleep, I'm emotional, my stretch marks feel like they are burning in some places on my belly, I really could go on and on, but I'll spare you....
The only thing that has helped me is every morning I get up and tell myself "Today is the last day you will be pregnant..." and for some reason that helps me appreciate it a little more and gets me through the day....and then at night before I go to bed...still pregnant and NOT in labor...I pray for God to grant me His peace, and faith in His plan for me and baby.
So that's whats up. I will say I am very appreciative to not be receiving a lot of texts and messages with the "no baby yet?" theme... that has spared me some of my sanity.
Friday, June 20, 2014
Go forth and be confident
I just read a blog post on how this woman is annoyed with the "Cult of Natural Childbirth". She goes on about how we try to make other mothers feel guilty for choosing an epidural, how we make child birth and our birth stories too big of a spectacle...medicine is progress...natural is ancient...blah blah. I get really annoyed by posts like this.....
Why? Cause I'm so pro-natural I cant see straight? NO, because I cant imagine why ME choosing to have a natural home birth would make YOU feel guilty in any way...Yes, I like to talk about it and I personally think what I'm doing is super cool...duh, that's why I'm doing it....because its what I want to do...and it if for some reason makes another woman feel guilty or less of a woman in any way...well I tend to think there are some underlying confidence issues there....
Go forth and be confident in your birth decisions!
If your not confident then read up on it, talk to people who've had different experiences than each other and see which one you identify with- then aim that direction and don't let anyone else deter you!
If my blog annoys you, its easy- don't read it. If you don't like the way I'm choosing to birth my son- don't ask about it. I don't care what you think and you shouldn't care what I think!
See if you can follow me here:
Did you know my kitchen walls are a beautiful turquoise blue? My husband and I love it, it makes me happy to look at it and I just love the pop of color with our wood cabinets. Turquoise is a pretty daring color, its not for everyone. Am I proud of the color of my kitchen? yes! Do I think you should paint your kitchen this color? Sure, If you want, and I will help you!
The color turquoise helps to open the lines of communication between the heart and the spoken word. It presents as a friendly and happy color enjoying life. In color psychology, turquoise controls and heals the emotions creating emotional balance and stability. Cool, huh? A little info there for ya!
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Of course I think birth is a bigger deal than the color of my kitchen, but the message is the same... None of us are alike, and that's ok...I just want to offer support to those who are similar to my way of thinking....its easy to get support for a normal hospital birth with an epidural...its the norm. So sue me if I want to help out a mom that wants to go a different route than that.
Why? Cause I'm so pro-natural I cant see straight? NO, because I cant imagine why ME choosing to have a natural home birth would make YOU feel guilty in any way...Yes, I like to talk about it and I personally think what I'm doing is super cool...duh, that's why I'm doing it....because its what I want to do...and it if for some reason makes another woman feel guilty or less of a woman in any way...well I tend to think there are some underlying confidence issues there....
Go forth and be confident in your birth decisions!
If your not confident then read up on it, talk to people who've had different experiences than each other and see which one you identify with- then aim that direction and don't let anyone else deter you!
If my blog annoys you, its easy- don't read it. If you don't like the way I'm choosing to birth my son- don't ask about it. I don't care what you think and you shouldn't care what I think!
See if you can follow me here:
Did you know my kitchen walls are a beautiful turquoise blue? My husband and I love it, it makes me happy to look at it and I just love the pop of color with our wood cabinets. Turquoise is a pretty daring color, its not for everyone. Am I proud of the color of my kitchen? yes! Do I think you should paint your kitchen this color? Sure, If you want, and I will help you!
The color turquoise helps to open the lines of communication between the heart and the spoken word. It presents as a friendly and happy color enjoying life. In color psychology, turquoise controls and heals the emotions creating emotional balance and stability. Cool, huh? A little info there for ya!
Should you feel guilty or less of a person because your kitchen is not turquoise? NO. Do I annoy you because I go on and on about the color of my kitchen and why I painted it that way? Am I a member of a cult because I like bold colors and love to talk about it? No No NO!
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Of course I think birth is a bigger deal than the color of my kitchen, but the message is the same... None of us are alike, and that's ok...I just want to offer support to those who are similar to my way of thinking....its easy to get support for a normal hospital birth with an epidural...its the norm. So sue me if I want to help out a mom that wants to go a different route than that.
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